Porn is not sex! Unrealistic and unhealthy expectations created by porn.

Porn movies are NOT created with sex in mind! As weird as it may sound the reality is that porn is not related to sexual intimacy, but to exploiting the fetishes and fantasies we may have deep down inside, and to entertain us, no matter how violent it may be.

Although porn has nothing to do with sex, an overwhelming number of teens are being exposed to porn as the go-to source of sex-related information, and they grow up believing that what they see in porn is the norm.

And that leads to unhealthy behaviors towards their sexual partners, having unrealistic expectations regarding the way their partners should act and feel during sexual intercourse, and unrealistic expectations regarding their own stamina and overall performance.

Porn is the equivalent of a wrestling match. Highly entertaining but not REAL!

You do not watch a wrestling match thinking that is the way a fight goes on in real life, do you? Then why do you watch porn and expect to replicate with your partner what you see there?

Just like the main goal of a wrestling match is to entertain its viewers, and the viewers are all hyped up even know they are aware to the fact that the match is staged and the props are not real, exactly the same applies to watching a porn show: 15 minutes of intense sexual action, with 10 different poses, a huge erection, moans, smacks, over-flowing cum and squirts, are filmed throughout an entire day, with breaks, erection pills, a special décor and a lot of different angles and poses, that do not add to the quality of sex, but are good for the camera.

Mutual pleasure is the goal

Porn means using your partner to fulfill your wild fantasies, and to experience that pleasure you’ve been dreaming about, without caring about the other person’s needs. But sex is about mutual pleasure, because no orgasm is better than the orgasm you have when you see your partner reaching full satisfaction, and all that because of you.

Porn has nothing to do with emotion

What we see in porn movies is a sexual act that is completely void of emotion. But what most men do not understand is that, by removing emotion from sex, you deny yourself an incredibly intense erotic experience, and an orgasm like no other.

Sex should not be hurtful

Porn explores the deepest, darkest corners of a person’s mind, so that you get to experience a scenario that you wouldn’t in real life.

Sex should not be about humiliating the person in front of you, about getting aroused at the sound of her gagging, or seeing her humiliated, tied up, beaten, with messy make-up. That is just a fantasy come to life, in a cinematic way.

Sex should be about mutual pleasure, about having fun, about intimacy, about confidence and about getting a serotonin boost that can help you to better navigate your life.